About Me

First: About This Blog

This blog was created to tell the story…our story…of how God taught us, conservative, evangelical parents, how to TRULY love our gay son. The original Just Because He Breathes piece was written at the request of a small group of LGBT students at a conservative Christian university…it was never intended for a larger audience, but that is what happened.

That said – Back to About Me

I love people.

I feel extremely passionate about justice & equality for all people, because all people are children of God, created in His image.

I feel most at home spending time with other people who are messy and broken like me. I feel passionate about speaking up for the voiceless, and advocating for those who are most vulnerable.

I think that it is easy to judge others until you face a situation yourself…I want to be very cautious about this in my own life. Analyzing, and blogging about, other peoples’ lives, has become a spectator sport…and I don’t want to play.

I like to have friends with people who are different than me. They challenge me, and stretch my thinking. They teach me about experiences, perspectives & histories that I wouldn’t be aware of if I only spent time with people just like me. I value and respect the differing opinions of others.

I want to continually allow God to change me…making me aware of the areas in my life where I need to allow Him inside to do renovation work. I never want to stop learning. If I ever do, please, someone, hit me upside the head.

I am the blessed mom of four adult children. I truly loved the years we spent as busy parents of four children born within 5 years and just a couple of months…those were probably the most delightful, busy, challenging, rewarding and least boring years of our lives.

I am overwhelmed with gratitude that my best friend, lover, soul mate and husband walks the journey of this life with me, and makes every day of these empty-nest years more fun than the last. Rob, I love you..I love you…I love you. Each day I am amazed at how I seem to only love and appreciate you more.

My only hope in this life is in my relationship with Jesus Christ, my God and my Savior. He is where I find my security, my identity, my motivation to keep going when the pain in life seems unbearable. The older I get, the more important and the simpler this seems to become to me. I simply need Jesus. I can’t do this life without Him.



390 thoughts on “About Me

  1. Lucy

    I’m a 19 y/o lesbian who has struggled to reconcile my faith and my desire for a happy, romantic relationship. I would love to have a wife one day, and a family, but for a while I was convinced I would not be able to. In fact, I’m still struggling, and have not attended church in nearly a year, because I believe I am unworthy and unwanted. This blog gives me hope, thank you.

  2. Stephanie Palmer

    I would love to contact you somehow. Maybe Facebook?? My name is Stephanie Palmer. I can’t thank you enough for this post. I’ve read it so many times, and I cry every single time.

      1. Lisa Donner

        Linda, thank you so much for sharing your story. I am so moved by this and I am now crying at work. My company is currently trying to make a documentary about the need to end conversion and reparative therapy. I was wondering if you would be willing to speak with us about this subject? I would so appreciate your time. You can call our office at 818-905-6660. God bless you and your family, and I’m so sorry for your loss.

  3. Paul

    Linda I read your story and my heart goes out to you.. It made me cry a lot because I had a similar situation with christians bashing me and hating on me for being gay.. It has rocked my faith to the core and made me bitter and angry towards the church as a whole.. I meet and married the love of my life, he is my best friend and soul mate and I thank God for him everyday. Unfortunately there has been a huge backlash and my heart is bleeding out.. It has really made me hate myself with what the church has been doing to me.. Could you possible add me on FB? My full name is: Paul Castillon. Here is the link: https://www.facebook.com/paul.castillon.5 Thank you again for your story.. It has helped me a lot and I am so sorry again for your loss. BIG HUGS!

    1. Linda Robertson Post author

      Heavy sigh…what a heartbreak, Paul, that you are STILL enduring this in 2018…the traditional church has it so very wrong on this issue.
      I’d love to recommend some books for you to read…and some other ways to connect with gay Christians so you can receive support, understanding and support.
      Last thing – I am hardly ever on FB (though I did just follow your link but found that you have the “add friend” option disabled), but feel free to friend me at: https://www.facebook.com/LindaDRobertson so I can pass on those recommendations! Much love to you!!

  4. consecratedbygod

    I have just recently been told by two of my teens in a month time span. I have always believed the scriptures to say it was not Gods design . I love them no matter what but I am seeking God on how to really so this and honor him. A friend led me to your blog. Wow what a heart breaking journey your family has been on. Thank you for standing up for your son and speaking up to save more lives and help more families.

  5. Anonymous

    Linda and Rob-

    Thank you much for sharing your family’s story. I’m actually from the Eastside (grew up going to church in Woodinville, did Awanas at Overlake, now attend church in the Snoqualmie valley when I’m home), and I remember hearing about Ryan’s story through word of mouth at the time but had no idea the profoundness of his story, just that he was very much loved by his family and his community at large. I came across the rest of your story through the youtube video of your talk at the Reformation Project and then the video of your talk at Eastlake and I was incredibly touched.

    As a relatively young gay Christian who hasn’t yet come out to my conservative (by West coast standards, anyways) family, I just want to thank you for sharing your story and your heart. It gives me hope for myself as well as for my family.

    1. Linda Robertson Post author

      Wow…what an encouragement this is! We would love to meet you…though we don’t use Facebook much anymore, you can still find me and message me there, if you’d ever like to connect when you are in town (Linda Mueller Robertson). Much love to you, new friend!

      1. Tad

        Dear Linda and Rob,

        Thank you for sharing your journey. Our daughter came out many years ago and we have always supported her and gave her unconditional love. We have always been concerned for her through a few tumultuous relationships and now has met someone that she is in love with. Her partner feeling “old fashioned” (her words) reached out to us with a touching letter, asking us for our daughter’s hand in marriage. There is no question of our positive and loving response, but this has raised some doubts and fears that my wife is having difficulty coming to terms with. We are looking for access to information and counseling to help us move forward.

        Blessing to you and your family and again thank you for sharing.

        1. Linda Robertson Post author

          You sound like wonderful parents, Tad…and I so respect your honesty. You’ll be so much more able to fully participate in the joy of their marriage if you are able to fully process all of the emotions that are coming up for both of you. I’ll send you a note with some info about support!

  6. Michelle Oxley

    I am living your story. My son has not passed but is using drugs , alcohol, drove drunk and wrecked at 60 MPH, almost fatally injured. Im waiting for another phone call. The first phone call they didn’t tell us if he had survived because they didn’t know by the time we arrived what the answer would be. he is in pain and numbing it however he can, He is depressed and lost and telling him I love him isn’t enough. Living in terror and fear and worry and grief has broken my heart and sloes my hope. I just have no one to help or guide me through this. I am a strong person that has been through a lot, but this is my boy, I’m weary and worn.


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